It’s been a bit of a whirlwind since I last wrote.
I’ve been on my course.
It was emotional. Memorable. Deep. Raucous and frustrating as hell!
But that’s what progress feels and looks like, and I am more than happy with all of that. Already in our first weekend I have made some friends with people I expect will last a lifetime.
Straight off the back of that weekend was the arrival of our elder daughter Laura. She’s been abroad for 3.5 years in both New Zealand and more recently Australia. She’s appeared for a hen weekend (I know, don’t ask) and is eeking her trip out to catch up with everyone.
I felt a need to make a deliberate division between the weekend and being mum. If I didn’t make this transition I knew I ran the risk of not being particularly ready to meet her, still wrapped up in my thoughts from the weekend.
How many times in life do we have to transfer from one role to another?
- From boss to partner?
- From partner to employee?
- From child to parent?
Without some thought of what we need to have and be ready to offer in each role we’re running the risk of not being in the right space and cocking up one or both of them.
Having some strategies in place to make these mini-spaces is a useful way to keep some calm in your life and your different roles and relationships.
There are many ways you can do this depending on the time you’ve got and the resources to hand.
- Taking 3 deep breaths, in through the nose for a count of 4, breathing out through the mouth for a count of 8 is a sure way to give yourself some space.
- Moving away from where you are. If you are at your desk and have just had a particularly difficult boss/employee conversation, it’s worth going for a walk around the office before making that call to your best client.
- If you have time put some time between you. A walk, a sit in another space with a book, a meditative contemplation about what you need to have in place for the next task.
- A sleep (not so easy in the office! But great for between days of different activities)
- A blast of some music. One that I am deferring to more often at the moment.
- And my favouritist (real word) of all — getting outside.
And that’s what I did on Monday morning.
I was awake early anyway and so headed out to satisfy the addict in me to be outside each day.
It was just what I needed to make the switch.
Later in the week I read this article on how being outside can reduce stress hormones. Well there you go…no wonder I don’t feel stressed! I am outside a lot.
How do you transition between all the roles you play in life?
And for those of you thinking you don’t need to, you’re just you all the time. I get that, but consider who you are with your parents or your boss or your kids or your best drinking mate or your Prosecco pal. Yes it’s you, but the you that they see when you’re with them.
If you struggle with the switch maybe consider how you can add some division time between these roles so that you can mentally and physically prepare before finding yourself down an emotional rabbit hole trying to scrabble out.
If exercise is one of your ways to shake it all off and just be you you are more than welcome to join us this week at our Family Charity Fit Camp on Sunday 14 April at Bearwood Recreation Ground, Winnersh RG41 5DU where we’re topping up the coffers for one of our campers who climbed to Everest Base Camp last month.
It’s a triple win of course.
You get the workout (shake it all off), the outside space (stress reduction and just fabby-lovliness) and you’re helping a charity too.
What’s not to like?
I look forward to seeing you there!
Dates for your diary:
Friday 21 June we’re hosting our Happiest Year Yet 2019 | Summer Solstice event. It’s a mid year meeting to see how the year’s plans are going. Early bird tickets are on sale until mid-May.
Please mark your calendars for a fun and informative longest day event.
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Have a great weekend!