Find out why after 15 years in the fitness industry I’m quitting the dieting industry…
Over the past 18 months I’ve become more and more aware that I no longer want to be part of the dieting industry statistics that show that most people who lose weight go back to putting it all on again.
I can’t live with that. I don’t want people cycling through the emotions of that and I know that there is a better way.
That. I do want to be part of.
The part that’s missing, in my opinion, is the bit between the ears.
When you can come to terms with how you feel about yourself, how and why you react to certain situations and realise that you are good enough, you are able to shift your mindset away from using food as an answer to troubles.
Once this is in order you are better able to move to a place where you can and do make good choices, accept when you don’t and move on without guilt, remorse, anger and frustration.
I’ve been looking at how best to offer this and have been running the Programme with No Name (PWNN) since September and also Fit, Lean & Happy (FLH) programmes since last year to find a better solution.
The Programme with No Name has been a wonderful opportunity to try this out and create a new programme that touches on what’s needed to make the biggest change, for the best use of time and financial investment.
The ladies who trialled the PWNN have all had their ah-ha moments, have found new ways to think about themselves, to leave emotional baggage behind and feel happier every day.
I asked them what three things they would say about the programme has helped them. Here are some of them…
“Three things – 1) spending time exploring where some of the unhelpful beliefs about food and body image have come from has been invaluable to enabling me to take control and start to change them 2) using affirmations and meditation are tools that have given me a sense of positivity and composure, the power of focusing on what’s in my control and how I want to feel about situations is immense 3) realising that other people have similar/identical issues and by listening to their thoughts/ideas on how to move forward, I’ve been inspired and encouraged to do the same.”
“I feel like I am going forward with a sense of achievement from it and also a love for myself that I had lost.”
“Working this through in a group has been invaluable and I really appreciate the support and empathy that everyone gave.”
“The great thing that I have learnt is that I’m good enough.”
I have been reflecting on this as it was quite hard to pick three points and I will probably roll a few points into one. But here goes:
1) Talk to myself like I would my best friend acknowledge that I am doing my best in the circumstances, I cannot fix everything but I always try hard, so criticising myself is not helpful, be positive about what I am doing not negative about what I am not doing;
2) Making time for me is not selfish. Start each day with an affirmation and whenever something happens that is not exactly as I would like it to be, remember that I control my feelings (even if I cannot control the circumstances) and how I react to the situations that arise. I would say I have always been a positive person but this way of thinking has made me able to let negative thoughts pass very easily;
3) Be exceptionally grateful for both my health and family. The values my family have given me have given me a fantastic platform to shape a happy and fulfilling life. This course really has changed my way of thinking and I still think the best analogy to the change in my mindset is that I feel like a huge weight pressing down on me has been released, I feel like I have emptied my rucksack of a load of bricks, I walk taller and lighter. I still use the image of the steps regularly ‘The future is up so leave your bags at the bottom’. Many people have noticed a change in me, or said I look well and I feel much more peaceful. It has been amazing to share the learning curve with such a lovely group of people and it is nice to find commonality with issues with others, especially when you think other people look like they ‘have all their shit together’ and you realise they have the same insecurities.”
What a wonderful place to be. No mention of food or scales or weights. Just feeling peaceful, happier and improved self esteem — I have such a sense of pride for these ladies for what they went through and discovered about themselves. It will stay with them.
So what now? How can I make this available to more people?
Following discussion with the ladies I’ve decided that the mindset work can be completely independent of Fit Camp and help anyone wanting to change some self beliefs or let go of old values.
The PWNN and FLH will not continue as they were. They’ve served their purpose to get us to this point but now it’s time to upgrade what we can offer.
In January I’ll be running a 2 day (Heal Your Life) workshop full of all the work I did with the ladies on PWNN over 10 weeks. It’s a fantastic opportunity to really allow you to discover, forgive and release all that’s held you back up until now.
The two day event is for 20 people maximum (male and female) and will run at The Renewal Centre in Swallowfield on Saturday 21 and Sunday 22 January — two full days. It’s a kind and positive process that when you work with it, you can only benefit.
It’s based on the work of Louise Hay and is well known, referenced and respected.
You can book and find out more
about this workshop here.
I’ll be running Heal Your Life about 3 times a year. It is a perfect accompaniment, but not compulsory component, to the new 12 week programme which I’ll be running in January called Fit, Strong & Happy.
Being happy is my primary concern for all of you. I want you to wake up each day and choose happiness over anxiety, choose happiness over worry and choose happiness over the number on the scales.
I am not airy-fairy or wearing the rose-tinted glasses too much enough to think that we can be floating every day.
Shit happens and there are days that we feel rough and low. But having the strength of character, strength of mind and strength of personal belief to know that it will passis my next goal for all of you.
Fitness is a given. We’re in the fitness business. You join us, you put the effort in, you will improve.
Fit, Strong & Happy starts on Monday 23 January and runs until Sunday 16 April. It includes:
- Full access to any Fit Camp across all venues including Henley, Twyford, Swallowfield, Warfield, Winnersh, Wokingham, Finchampstead and Crowthorne.
- One extra Sunday workout a month (4 in all) to assess, stretch, challenge and reassess.
- One 2 hour group classroom session (3 in all) on a Sunday afternoon a month. Working on values and beliefs, mindset and long standing issues which cause us to make repeating behaviours.
- 1-2-1 consultation beginning, end and midway consultation at my house in the 12 weeks.
- Weekly coaching and food diaries with Kirsty and Heidi
- Private Facebook Group.
- 15 places maximum.
Price £132.50 + VAT a month (for 3 months)
Both of these programmes offer an opportunity to take time for you.
Taking time for you isn’t selfish, it’s an opportunity to improve all your relationships whether it’s with food, your spouse, your children, your parents, your work colleagues, your attitude to money, your attitude to success and most importantly your relationship with you.
One of the ladies on Programme with No Name said “I’ve never felt so happy” — what a fabulous place to be.
Please contact Nia on firstname.lastname@example.org or Heidi on email@example.com to reserve an opportunity to be considered for the Fit, Strong & Happy programme.
Or if you want to reserve your place please click this link
I repeatedly tell my ladies that we are a work in progress. We’re always learning, growing, changing. These programmes change and grow too as I learn something new.
I feel fairly confident to say that it will change again in the future 🙂
To 2017 – Your Happiest Year Yet.
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