Overwhelm. What a disabling feeling that is.
It can kick in at any time, without any warning and leave you staring at your computer screen wondering what on earth you need to do to get out of it.
And the problem is that it sometimes mistakenly disguises itself as the feeling of ‘not being good enough’.
So much so that you think you aren’t capable of running a home, or feeding your family or earning a living, or getting a work life balance or getting it all together like, (and here’s the kicker…) everyone else seems to be coping just fine.
And there we have it, an ounce of overwhelm leads us to compare, contrast and use everyone else’s lives as a model when we know nothing about what’s really going on for them.
Let me assure you that everyone else’s lives are much the same as yours. Wealthy people have doubts and fears, happy people have worries and anxious days, healthy people worry they’re not doing enough, sad people worry about being sad, fearful people think they can’t do it.
I want to share with you some life-saving-sanity-creating-I’
- Put the kettle on and make a drink, go and get 3 large pieces of paper and two pens of different colours and draw a line down each from top to bottom.
- Sit down with hot drink and head each sheet with either do, don’t care or drop.
- Do = must be done, can be done. Don’t care = could be done, not life changing.Drop = don’t need this clogging up my bonce any more.
- Empty your overwhelm head onto these pages (in one colour pen only). It doesn’t have to perfect my OCD readers, it can have scribbles, things can be moved from one page to another, you are allowed to cross out. 🙂
- Drink your drink and take a breather.
- OK here is where it gets exciting — take the page that says drop and tear it up and throw it away. It no longer exists to you! If there is something on there that makes you sweat to see it thrown away is it on the right list?
- Then prioritise your Do list, choose 1, 2 or 3. 1 is screamingly urgent, 2 is pretty important 3 is need to do this very soon. Give each item on there a number.
- Look at the 1s and decide what step you need to do next to move this forward. Using the other colour pen write next to each 1 what you can do next to move this forwards to completion
- Do it. And also stay away from facebook to see what everyone else is doing with their lives, stay away from trophy sites showing you perfect homes, clean children and relaxing weekends. It’s all very nice but focus on you, what you want, what you need to do to move on and do the one thing towards it.
Does this sound simple and like nothing new?
Yep. But have you done it?
Will this help empty your head of trying to remember everything? Yes.
Will this remove from your head the clutter that is stopping you from remembering the important stuff? Yes.
Will this give you a plan of action to get the big stuff done? Yes.
So, do it. 🙂 Getting stuff done, frees you from self doubt and overwhelm. Really, it does.
It’s how our intrepid FastTrack Three Peakers managed to accomplish the epic 12-14 hour trek they undertook last weekend to accomplish all three of the Yorkshire peaks.
They really felt overwhelm beforehand.
Some of them thought that they couldn’t do it and weren’t good or fit or fast enough.
But they worked at one thing at a time, didn’t compare themselves to anyone else, supported each other as they went along and made it. They triumphed and in that triumph felt the sense of achievement that knows that they are good enough, fit enough, fast enough, funny enough, supportive enough and motivating enough.
Action is the cure for all procrastination and overwhelm. So do something today, make your list or ditch your drop list or decide what next and know that this one thing will make a difference.
That’s your lot today. Have a great weekend.